I’m so excited to be celebrating my first Mother’s Day this weekend. I’ve been thinking about how I would be a mom on the next Mother’s Day since I found out I was pregnant. Little did I know, I was already a mom last mother’s day and had no idea! I’ve always wanted to be a mom. I just knew it was something that I was meant for even if I wasn’t able to have children of my own. Before I had Hunter, the thought of becoming a mother always made me so happy. Now that I am a mommy, I think a lot about the kind of mom I hope to be to Hunter and to our future babies. In honor of my first Mother’s Day, I thought I would share the kind of mom that I hope to be so I can look back on this when I get busy or things are hard.
I Hope to Enjoy Every Moment. Time goes by quickly and you can never get it back. It is so easy to just be distracted by anything. Being a blogger, I tend to be on my phone or computer a lot. I don’t want to spend my time wrapped up in blogging 24/7. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love blogging and getting to share my life with y’all but I don’t want my life to revolve around it. And the same goes for my day job. Someone once told me this, “You work to live, you don’t live to work“. That really resonated with me. I don’t want to look back in 5/10 years and think about all the little moments I wished I had been present for. I want to soak in every moment that I get to be with my baby while she is still a baby and as she grows up.
I Hope to Show My Children a Glimpse of God’s Love. Every night Mason and I pray that Hunter comes to know Jesus at a young age and that people are drawn to Him because of her. I hope that the example that I show my babies is one that they look at me and see God’s love. I hope to show my children what God is like through my actions and how I treat them. One of my favorite bible verses is 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8 because I like to replace the word “Love” with “God” and that is how I want to show God’s love to my babies.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.
I hope to remember this when I get frustrated and think I might lose it. Mason and I are what our children will look to as an example. I hope through us they can see what God’s love for them is like.
I Hope to be Their Friend. I want my children to always feel that they can confide in me. I look at Hunter and I always think how I want to be her best friend. That being said, I am also her mother and I want to be a parental figure. I want to be her friend by doing fun things with her and just being silly together. I want her to want to go get her nails done with me or go shopping. Maybe she won’t be as girly as me and that’s okay so we can figure out other things to do together. The point is I just want to do things with her and her to always feel like she can come to me with anything.
I Hope to be the Cool Mom (Not a Regular Mom 😉). I don’t mean this in the way that Regina’s mom in Mean Girls means it either. I want to be fun! I want my babies to enjoy spending time with me. Of course, I’ll do things to embarrass them i’m sure (probably on purpose sometimes) but I want them to think I’m fun. I want to enjoy the things my children like to do or at least pretend like I enjoy it!
I Hope to Always be Encouraging. I want to always encourage my children in everything they do. If they want to do it, they should be able to. I always joke that Hunter HAS to be a cheerleader or gymnast because I was. Of course, I would love for her to follow in my footsteps but if she doesn’t that’s okay too. Maybe she will want to play soccer or basketball or who knows what else. I want to encourage her in anything she wants to do even if I don’t know what the heck I’m talking about. I hope to encourage my children to try new things even if they aren’t good at it. You’ll never know if you don’t try, right?
I hope to keep my identity as a person. I don’t have to give up doing the things I love just because I’m a mom. It’s not one or the other, I can be both a mom and be Nicole and I want my kids to know that. I hope to show my babies what relationships should be like. I want them to look at the marriage that Mason and I have and hold that as their standard. I don’t want them to think they deserve anything less than being treated with respect and being loved unconditionally. I want to make mistakes (well I don’t want to but I know I will) but keep trying anyways. I hope to show my children that it’s okay to ask for help when you need it. I hope to always see the strengths in my children even if it’s something that I can’t relate to. I want to always see the best in my babies and help them see that even when it’s difficult. I don’t want to ever pretend like I’m perfect because I am far from it! I could go on and on about the mom I hope to be to Hunter and for my family.
I really just hope to be a person and mom that Mason and my babies are proud of. I want to make my family better and I want them to do the same for me.
Happy almost Mother’s Day to all my fellow mamas and thanks so much for hanging around and reading my long emotional post today! I definitely cried a few times while writing this but I’m glad I was able to share this with y’all.
^ we are making the same face and I can’t stop laughing about it